After fifteen years It’s time I was honest with the World: I’m Gay
February 28, 2011 § 11 Comments
SO, IT’S my Birthday today, I turn 31!
Well, it’s kind of my birthday…you see I’m a Leap Year child, born on February 29th 1980.
Not sure if it’s the birthday adrenaline coursing through my veins, but I’ve decided the time has come to be true to myself and to be true to others.
Long since time to ‘come out of the closet’ and tell the world that I’m gay.
It’s a shame, in one sense, that being gay is not seen as normal enough for people like me not to have to ‘come out’ like it’s some kind of circus performance.
However, I do so today not only because it’s time I was honest with the World about who I am, but also because I believe that the more of us homosexuals who stand up and tell people who and what we are, the more courage it will give to other people to do the same.
I’ve been blown away, in recent weeks, since I first ‘came out’ to my brilliant friend Daniel (who I thank for his friendship, integrity and advice) with how cool people have been when I’ve told them, how quick they’ve been to reassure me that this doesn’t change anything, and, in terms of my brother and father, how much they love me.
And, of course, it shouldn’t be something to get worked up about…and I know I should have done this years ago, but you just don’t know how people are going to react; it’s the fear of the unknown that is the key to this.
A friend of mine put it starkly to me when he noted that at 31, I could be nearing half-way through my life-span and that it’s time I lived my life how I wanted to.
I couldn’t do this without the support and love of countless friends; Daniel, Helen, James, Simon, Stuart, Andy, Harvey and others I’ve probably forgotten to mention; your support, in recent weeks, has been fantastic.
And, of course, to my family…to whom I owe more than I than I can easily express.
Of course, in many ways, this changes nothing: I’m still the same bloke; still a bit of a geek, still a Lib Dem, still a Christian, still a Republican, still pro-European, still love radio and current affairs, still think I can sing when really I can’t, and so on.
I could go on for longer, but I think I’ll leave it at for now.
It feels like a huge weight lifted from my shoulders.
Many thanks and much love.